UNTAMABLE HEART

At our recent retreat in upstate New York, someone asked what was meant by the wild heart. This is what I said (or words close to this) … The wild heart is your untamable nature, that part of you which is free because it cannot be captured by anything you think or feel or do….

REMEMBER, YOU ARE HELD

My friend, remember. Remember you are held. When your heart is aching and there’s no cure for this pain, you are held. When life no longer makes sense and you drift aimlessly like a leaf in the wind, you are held. When thoughts are seen to be untrustworthy and you fear you’re going insane, you…

WHAT IS YOUR DEEPEST LONGING?

I ask you, what do you long for? You tell me you want to find fulfillment in the work you do, to do something meaningful, to express your authentic voice. I ask you, what do you long for? You tell me you want to find happiness in relationship, to meet your soul mate, and finally…

IS IT OK TO FALL APART?

To fall apart. It sounds scary. It sounds like the end of the world. The end of us. We do everything in our power to not fall apart. We keep our emotions in check. We keep our feelings hidden, even to ourselves. We contort ourselves around family rules. Don’t rock the boat, they said. Don’t…

THE YOU THAT REMAINS AFTER AWAKENING

There’s a question that is often bothersome on the seeker’s path … Does awakening erase the personality? Do all personal traits, tendencies, and idiosyncrasies get wiped away in one fell swoop? Does our astrological imprint become obsolete? Do we transcend our conditioning completely? Do we return to some kind of innocent tabula rasa? It boggles…

IN THE WORLD, BUT NOT OF IT

Awakening, the holy grail. Awakening, the icing on the cake. Awakening, the carrot at the end of the stick. Awakening, the magic bullet. Awakening, you want it. You seek it. You chase it. You give up caring about anything else in order to get it. Awakening, you hope it takes away your pain. You expect…

Your Brokenness is Holy

Friend, do you run away from your pain, your shame, your secret rage and private grief? Do you stuff those unwanted feelings into the dark recesses of your belly, cover them over with things to do, things to get, things to eat? Do you turn away from disappointment, rejection, failure and regret, pretending they do…

WHAT SHOULD WE DO WITH PAST PAIN .. DO WE NEED TO HEAL IT?

I am often asked … Is somatic work useful in the process of awakening? Do we need to dissolve contractive patterns in the body-mind before we can be free? Should we attempt to let go of suppressed emotions .. or should we just practice “being still and present”? Does focussing on past wounding perpetuate it…

Rest Here

When the intensity of the earthly experience strikes you, soften into the embrace of the unbearable. When the unexpected brings you to your knees, bow down all the way and be thankful for the hidden gift. When your heart is ripped open by the agony of existence, open even wider than that. When you are…

The Invitation

The invitation is to give your allegiance to what your heart knows, not to what the mind thinks. I bow down to that knowing which is alive in you, even when it is seemingly covered over by confusion and pain. As we greet this deeper part of us, truth reveals itself. And as this truth…